Brian Allain

Two Fundamental Paths

From “Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success” by Adam Grant Research suggests that there are two fundamental paths to influence dominance and prestige. When we establish dominance, we gain influence because others see us as strong, powerful, and authoritative. When we earn prestige, we become influential because other respect and admire us. […]

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Prelude to an Encounter with God

From “What Makes You Come Alive: A Spiritual Walk with Howard Thurman” by Lerita Coleman Brown Howard Thurman also believed that quieting the mind prepares us for an encounter with God. Solitude reduces the chance that interruptions and distractions will interfere. In the silence, an ineffable experience may occur, or we might simply hear some

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The Purpose of Discernment

From “Discernment: Reading the Signs of Daily Life” by Henri Nouwen with Michael J. Christensen and Rebecca J. Laird The purpose of discernment is to know God’s will, that is, to find, accept, and affirm the unique way in which God’s love is manifest in our life. To know God’s will is to actively claim

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How To Increase Your Integrity

From “The Speed of Trust: The One Thing That Changes Everything” by Stephen M. R. Covey So how do we go about increasing our integrity? First, we need to consider what degree of integrity we currently have. At this point, you might find it helpful to review the following questions based on the self-assessment questionnaire.

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Hard Problems

From “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” by Carol S. Dweck, PhD We gave fifth graders intriguing puzzles, which they all loved. But when we made them harder, children with the fixed mindset showed a big plunge in enjoyment. They also changed their minds about taking some home to practice. “It’s okay, you can keep

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Google it

From “Where Good Ideas Come From: The Natural History of Innovation” by Steven Johnson If the commonplace book tradition tells us that the best way to nurture hunches is to write everything down, the serendipity engine of the Web suggests a parallel directive: look everything up.

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God Will Make a Way

From “Embracing Your Second Calling: Find Passion and Purpose for the Rest of Your Life” by Dale Hanson Bourke In their book God Will Make a Way, psychologists Henry Cloud and John Townsend describe a concept called “finishing.” According to Drs. Cloud and Townsend, we all have relationships, experiences, and lessons in life that are

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Great Laughter

From “Listening to Your Life: Daily Meditations with Frederick Buechner” by Frederick Buechner PART OF THE FARCE was that for the first time in my life that year in New York, I started going to church regularly, and what was farcical about it was not that I went but my reason for going, which was

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